Your alarm clock starts beeping. You roll over and see the time – 6 a.m. Hurriedly, you rush out of bed, into the shower, watch the morning news and brush your hair, all while throwing together a quick breakfast and lunch. Running out the door – almost late – you think of everything you have to do that day. You sigh and think, “why is there never enough time in the day?”
I know each and every person reading this has felt like this at one time or another (or even every single day). Our days seem jam-packed. We are unable to complete everything on our to-do list, let alone barely scrap by. Why? What’s happened that has made us so darn busy?
We have the same 24 hours as everyone else in this world has had before us and will have after us. People who have achieved great things for humanity have done their work within that 24-hour constraint. Yet, we seemingly struggle with it day in and day out. You try and try to get things done as quickly as possible, but before you know it you look up at the clock and see it’s already 7 p.m.
It happens so easily. All of the sudden you sit there and say, “What happened to my life? Where did I go wrong?” While you’re not inconsolably upset, you aren’t happy. You know you need change, but don’t even know where to begin. It’s a tough situation to be in.
You’ve probably found yourself in this scenario at one point or another in your life. Everything seems bland. Each day fades into the next. You are pretty much just waiting eagerly for everything to be finished at the end of the day. You glide effortlessly from one thing to the next – and that’s not necessarily a good thing. And the cycle repeats itself again and again. That’s no way to live.
Getting stuck in this mode of thinking can be dangerous for ourselves and our lives. You say you hate your job, but are still working in the same position. You say you want to move somewhere else, but are still in the same town. You say that you want to achieve big goals, but never take the actual steps to get there. You’re just stuck in the same place you were a year – or five years – ago. These steps require change – change in your attitude, outlook and communication – but you still aren’t doing anything different. Because, well, change can be pretty scary. But there comes a point when it is no longer an option – it’s a requirement.
The need for a drastic change can be caused by one big life-altering event or a succession of tiny events compounded together. Whatever the catalyst is, the commonality is that change needs to occur. But this isn’t always so clear-cut. What do you do if you think you are on the brink of something big, but don’t know if you need to take the leap yet? Check out these 4 signs you need a drastic change in your life:
Every day we make decisions. Some are trivial: what do I wear, which shirt should I buy, or what should I eat for lunch? However, others are far more critical in the grand-scheme of life.
When we face substantial decisions, they can feel incredibly daunting and evoke numerous negative emotions. Even though we make many big decisions in our lifetimes, somehow they don’t seem to get any easier to make. We can waste so much time and energy trying to make the “right” choice, and we sometimes even refuse to make a decision altogether. This list is meant to make your decision-making process a little simpler with some straightforward tricks to making those tough decisions.
Don’t rely on others
What do you do when you have a difficult decision to make? For most of us, a phone call to a friend or family member is a logical first step. We tend to search for guidance or some type of advice, but in reality, it is likely that we just want someone to confirm what we already know in our hearts. Many of us are bad at taking advice from others—even when it makes perfect sense. We usually decide what we feel is best, not what anyone else feels is best for us.
As we move through our own individual lives, it’s so easy to get lost, re-routed or simply just off your planned course. So many variables continually affect how our story will end. Naturally, we all may have a plan for ourselves, but, we often say, “life gets in the way.” You hit road bumps, happy accidents and devastating pitfalls. That’s just how life sometimes goes.
What do you do when get thrown off course? Some people simply accept what has been given to them and continue to trudge through, forgetting about what they really wanted out of everything in the first place. The easy route is going along with whatever happens. But, if you are really dedicated to being the best you that you can possibly be, you’ll need to be able to successfully redirect and refocus yourself towards the goals you set in the first place. No excuses.
That’s where this post comes in. In order to refocus yourself, you must first identify what in your life needs to be changed or redirected. Questioning several aspects of your current life, situation and outlook will help you really get in there and examine where you diverged from your planned route.
In need of a little direction? Check out these 7 straightforward questions that will help refocus your life:
You may be the happiest person in the world – sure of who you are and what you want out of life until that one insecure person comes along. All of the sudden they have you doubting yourself and questioning your choices. For the first time in a long time you feel reservations about the decisions you’ve made and how you’re living yours life. Are you actually doing something wrong?
This is the spell insecure individuals attempt to cast on their more assured counterparts. You haven’t done anything wrong, yet they are making you feel totally disparaged.
It’s not you – it’s them. Insecure people have a way about them. Their primary goal is to make themselves feel like the bigger and better person. For you, that means you have to be the littler and less accomplished individual. Funny how they try turn the tables.
You probably deal with dozens of these people every day. Instead of thinking that they are wrong, you question yourself. That’s totally natural. But don’t let them get you down. That’s exactly what they want.
In order to get them to understand how their actions are affecting others, it’s imperative that you discuss the issues with them in a private setting. An insecure person will not stand for being called out in front of the very group of people they are trying so hard to impress.
But before you even go there, you must first be able to identify the key markers of an insecure individual. Here are 6 things that insecure people generally say in order to put other people down:
You’ve said this line a million times – “I would love to focus more on [inset hobby or interest here], but I just don’t have time!”
No one really has the extra time to devote to passions or hobbies, but they make the time. If you truly want to do something, you’ll make room in your busy schedule. Ensuring that you are working to the best of your ability is one of the simple tricks to free up the time necessary to pursue your interests.
How you start your mornings almost always sets the tone for the remainder of the day. If you are really seeking to sculpt a uniquely successful life, it’s important to keep your productivity levels as high as possible. Completing the most tasks you can each day, while maintaining quality, allows you to work to the best of your ability and strive for greatness.
Find 10 tips to increase your productivity every morning below:
Our lives are composed of a series of connections to other human beings. We meet people every day. Some may come and go from our lives, while others stick around for the long haul. What decides who stays and who goes? It’s usually determined based on a variety of factors, including chemistry, shared likes and ability to get along. In order to keep a person’s interest, you must actively and continuously engage them on a variety of levels.
We all unknowingly do things that turn people off from us. Some people have a natural talent in regards to connecting with people. Others have a more difficult time forging relationships. It just depends on the person. Not everyone will always relate with you. That’s just the way life is. We weren’t all meant to be friends in this world, but building active connections with other people is an imperative way to thrive in both professional and personal endeavors.
From time to time, we all do things that disengage other people from us. That’s okay. When this happens, you should take the lesson learned from the situation and move forward. Learning from experiences where people instantly become disconnected from you because of your action or words will enable you to avoid repeating that same mistake moving forward.
There are a few things that we all inadvertently do each and every day that almost always separates people from us and turns them off to anything we have to say. Check out these four ways you unknowingly disengage people: