Relationships play a big role in the story of our lives. They can make it absolutely remarkable or push it down to unfathomable lows. That’s why it’s important to cherish what you have with those closest to you in order to maintain a connection and strong bond.
Those relationships are built on support. When things get difficult for someone in your life, it’s vital that you’re there for them, backing their decisions and acting as their biggest cheerleader. In the same token, you should share their most significant triumphs and successes as if they were your own. That’s how two people stay united through the test of time.
It really doesn’t matter if you know someone or not; you should always strive to influence their day in a constructive way. The world is an interconnected place. Offering a little kindness where it’s least expected could have a resonating effect. A smile, thank you or caring act can go a long way.
Have you ever found yourself not being able to recall what was said after leaving a conversation with a friend or a class lecture? I know I have. Although most of us have the ability to hear, it takes added effort to truly listen. Here is a list of the main perpetrators that prevent us from listening meaningfully and how to avoid them:
Each of us daydreams. Unfortunately, it doesn’t take much to set off a daydream—especially when we need to be listening. A friend can be telling you about her horrible day at work when she mentions a word that triggers a memory or a thought that sends you spiraling down a daydreaming black hole. “It was an oven in there,” she says, and you can’t remember whether or not you shut the oven off or locked the door or fed the dog or…wait, what did she just say about her boss?
Compassion. We welcome it with open arms when others give it to us, but are usually a bit more hesitant to extend it out to those who need it the most. It could be because we are engrossed in our own lives too much to see the troubles other people face. Or maybe we just don’t understand the depths of their difficulties. The fact of the matter is that each and every one of us can do things to be more compassionate on a daily basis. We should be able to connect and provide a sense of empathy when necessary.
Empathy, compassion, sympathy, concern. Whatever you want to call it, they all have one thing in common – a true understanding of someone else’s feelings. Whether they are going through a tough patch or have been hit hard with obstacles for a while, it’s difficult to understand their pain unless you’ve been there. That’s why it is so important to have compassion for others and their situations, even if you don’t fully understand them and their actions.
Actions are caused by prior experiences. Just because you can’t see the relationship between those things from the outside doesn’t mean that they don’t make sense inside someone’s mind. Remember that before jumping to a judgment. That’s why exercising continued compassion for all people provides you with the most clear cut method of connecting and gaining better understanding of the world around you.
Kindness and empathy should be the cornerstone of our interactions with every person in this world. They give us a better way to show our compassion and, in turn, gain better perspective on everyone around us. Compassion serves as a pillar for connecting and understanding, even when you can’t begin to understand someone’s circumstance. It shows that you care – that you can care. It shows them that they are not alone. It gives them hope. Check out these 4 tips to help you be more compassionate today:
Your alarm clock starts beeping. You roll over and see the time – 6 a.m. Hurriedly, you rush out of bed, into the shower, watch the morning news and brush your hair, all while throwing together a quick breakfast and lunch. Running out the door – almost late – you think of everything you have to do that day. You sigh and think, “why is there never enough time in the day?”
I know each and every person reading this has felt like this at one time or another (or even every single day). Our days seem jam-packed. We are unable to complete everything on our to-do list, let alone barely scrap by. Why? What’s happened that has made us so darn busy?
We have the same 24 hours as everyone else in this world has had before us and will have after us. People who have achieved great things for humanity have done their work within that 24-hour constraint. Yet, we seemingly struggle with it day in and day out. You try and try to get things done as quickly as possible, but before you know it you look up at the clock and see it’s already 7 p.m.
Thoughts of negativity or self-doubt enter all of our minds from time to time – even the most self-assured of us. Regardless of what you’ve achieved or what you’ve done with your life, there’s always that little voice in the back of your head doubting yourself. That’s just the way life goes. What you can control are your thoughts and how they contribute to any negativity you feel about yourself or your life. You have the power to push any cynicism out of your life.
Some thought are quick snippets of ideas, running through our brains at a specific time. Others remain longer than they are welcomed. They consume our entire being and really convince ourselves of something we may have not thought of before. They can help you to achieve greatness or lead you on a path to self-destruction. It all depends on the type of thoughts you are having. There are thoughts so influential that they can literally alter the path of your life. They can dictate whether you will be happy or unhappy, successful or not. They decide your fate.
Certain thoughts reign higher than others in our minds. There are the ones that fleet away in a second and there are the ones that engulf our entire being. Many negative or dangerous thoughts continually move us backwards, away from progression, until we get the courage to break free from them. You have to be the one who identifies harmful thinking and, instead, fills your head with only thoughts that encourage progress and positivity.
You must first be able to recognize those negative thoughts that will hold you back from your potential. Check out these six detrimental thoughts that move you backwards:
Maybe you always feel a little down. Or perhaps you just aren’t enjoying life. It could be a fleeting feeling or something you’ve felt for a while. Unfortunately, misery is all around us. It’s easy to get swept up into its powers. Almost everyone you know probably participates in some meaningless activity that is actually, and usually unknowingly, dragging them further and further away from true happiness and contentment.
We all do small things each and every day that make us really miserable. I’d say 99 percent of the time we either don’t realize what we are doing or don’t understand its effect. We just keep moving along. We just keep living the same way. In the back of our minds, we know these things are hurting, not helping, us. Yet we still seem to do them day in and day out. We continue to move forward in our lives and don’t realize that we are hurting ourselves as often as we are taking in a breath of air.
It doesn’t have to be that way. Individually, each of these little things aren’t too bad. But, they rarely exist alone. It takes mental willpower and conscious living to overcome these barriers to happiness. It takes determination and willpower. You have to be the one to take control and make choices. No one is going to do it for you.
The good news is you can begin to move misery out of your life today. All it takes is the ability to make mindful decisions and see what’s really, truly best for you. Before you take steps to move misery out of your life, you must know the little triggers that cause it in the first place. Check out these 12 inadvertent ways you are making yourself miserable:
We are all capable of greatness. The only differentiation between those who actually achieve success and those who are left in the dust is their ability to overcome challenges that can indefinitely hold them back. Recognizing these impediments allows you to work through any negative thoughts and fear you may have about reaching for your dreams. Once you identify the obstacles that aren’t letting you achieve success, you’ll be better able to scrutinize them and implement a solution.
Squash fear, push on and become your dream. Overcome these 5 motives that can hold you back now:
Being afraid of success